YEAH!!!

Howdy!
So.... first BLOG!!! Yippee. I am thrilled, as I know whoever is reading this is as well!

With the new year comes new goals. Not resolutions, just goals. They aren't unachievable either. They are simply things I want to do that I am going to try and do.

Starting off with getting over the fact that you are going to make mistakes. And you are going to bring bad things upon yourself. The GOAL is to accept that and deal with it and learn from it and move on. It is not the easiest thing, but it is definitely getting easier to do.

Another GOAL is to recognize and practice a most basic concept my mother taught me years ago... "Kill them with kindness." This one falls right in place with the first GOAL I am out to achieve. People can upset you, be petty, talk about you, be mad for something you did to them or someone that they care about, and hold it against you. I have learned, and put into practice, the concept of killing with kindness. It involves more than just being nice. It also involves the act of ignoring, which can sometimes be super difficult. Applying this kindness act makes you realize that you are capable of a maturity level that is beyond the people you are "killing with kindness."

The third, and most important of my GOALS is to learn to love myself. Not too long ago, I made a mistake and hurt several people in the process. I realized several things-- hurting someone you care about makes you feel like pond scum; you realize who your real friends are and who understands that people make mistakes; you learn to learn from those mistakes and fix what is important and what matters; you learn that you are only human and that just because you did something wrong, doesn't make you a horrible person. All of these things combined helps to put the focus on healing and yourself, and makes it easier to begin to love yourself and be a better person.

I guess the point I am trying to make and the reasoning behind the GOALS is to really focus on the NOW and the present and leave the past and the mistakes and mishappenings behind. To realize that what is done is done and cannot be changed. To understand that no one is perfect and that everyone makes mistakes. To really challenge yourself to work on what relationships matter and which ones don't. To love yourself and be happy with yourself so that you can love other people. That is the most important thing.

So, there you go. Those are the GOALS. that is what I am working towards and that is what really matters.

It's what it all means...